Some wise man said: “First impressions don’t always give the complete picture for many reasons; consider giving someone another chance.”
When we meet someone for the first time, we often make a defining image in our minds of who that person is. At the very moment we may also determine whether or not that someone is worth getting to know or getting along. Sometimes when an initial interaction is particularly uncomfortable or challenging, we may even decide to burn the bridge entirely. At the same my experience says, being too quick to judge a human being can cause us to lose out on a potentially wonderful, enriching relationship. In short what I try to emphasise is that “First impressions don’t necessarily give the complete or true picture”. So if you meet someone who leaves you less than impressed, why not consider giving him or her a second chance. You might be pleasantly surprised.
For that matter, I would say everyone deserves to be given a second chance. We know from each of our personal experience how painful it can feel to be misunderstood or mis-judged. We may be having good intentions; but unable to present it in a package. One may also have much to offer to the society; but checking the purpose, sincerity and dedication of the individual/organisation. Now, when someone shuts us out before they even know who we are, what we stand for etc., it can be frustrating, hurtful, and confusing. And then it is the same I am talking about where others could expect the same from you as they too can feel the same way you feel when you felt you deserved a second chance. By giving others a second chance, we can rightfully expect the same courtesy we would ask for ourselves.
Any individual could be preoccupied with a personal or business situation or maybe they had a bad day or some bad news preceding your meeting. And we all know that such things do affect the way people present themselves. This is the only reason why I suggest give them the benefit of doubt first time and give a second chance before you form an opinion.
Of course, there is always your intuition advising you what to expect or what to do. Honour your intuition too while taking the decision to give or not give a second chance because, at the end, not everyone may deserve a second chance.
And not a single person should get sidelined because he/she didn’t get another chance to prove.
Madhu K. Nair [18th November 2004]