Dependence…the flipside

I am one among those many who take pride in my own self-sufficiency. I always liked to be responsible for taking care of not only myself but others surrounding me also. May be this could be the reason why it become so challenging when I find myself in a situation in which I have to rely on someone else. Then when I started moving upwards in the career ladder I was made to realise by circumstances and experiences that it is essential to rely on others too to get things done in time.


I do admit that, too often we make things worse either by trying to do more than we should or by giving into feelings of uselessness. In both cases I did run the risk of actually prolonging my dependency. In needing others and allowing them to share the responsibilities, we allow a team to grow that is in today’s terminology called ‘home-grown’ all-round executives. Also, it allows one to bloom into a wholesome and successful executive. At the same time the senior can concentrate on many other things where his or her attention or action is more essential.

While one can go on counting the good things derived off sharing and delegation, we cannot ignore the negatives of this system. It is a complete chain work that finally delivers.

One initiative missing in this chain can lead to embarrassment and loss of credibility added with financial losses in some cases. Of the above, loss of credibility is long term damage which cannot be retrieved that easily. The minimum courtesy expected in cases of something not happening is communication of the same with hurdles faced well in advance. This way – at least – you are giving an opportunity to the person at the helm a chance to control the possible damage by taking the ultimate customer / client into confidence and furthering the issue in a different way. By leaving any such issue for the mercy of god one is damaging several other persons involved in it along with long term damages as said above.

To me it is a very hard lesson learnt that “don’t leave responsibilities with irresponsible individuals”.

But the million dollar question is “Whom should be termed as irresponsible”?


[Madhu K. Nair – 8th December 2005]

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